In Celebration of the Unfinished: Notes on Becoming
26 January 2026

We spend a good chunk of our lives focusing on what we haven't yet completed, how far we have to go to reach a place where we're content. I'm a big participant of this mentality, always thinking about how distant my desired outcomes are. The general thought process is - well yeah it's great that I accomplished this but don't worry I can do better, this isn't the end. And while it's great to keep aiming higher, this uphill stride can go two main ways. Our goals can either serve as a guiding north star that reminds of of our purpose - or a never ending trudge towards growth, with no satisfaction in sight. By being content enough with out present situation - even if it's different from our vision, our dreams can grow alongside us in a flow that allows us to flourish and adapt to our expanding capabilities. When dreams aren't treated as a powerful driving force, they lose their magical quality and become birds tied down to reality, caged rather than free in spirit and abundant in possibility. So why not use the uncharted territory to believe that the wildest possibilities we can imagine are actually attainable? We can go a step further and choose to revel in all the aspects of our lives that feel unfinished. We are allowed to be happy before we have reached peak self improvement. Especially when we feel weighed down by daily life, we can even be grateful that we haven’t walked the whole path, that more abundance lies ahead. Embrace the neverending process of becoming. Even in death, we continue to be a part of the ecosystem; ashes tossed into the sea, flesh disintegrating into the dirt. Over and over again. The start or foggy middle of a journey is such a wonderful place to be. Without the wisdom of later experiences or the comfort of a future lover’s arms, we get to just exist in the change. All the embarrassments and mistakes will one day be looked at with endearment as key parts of the journey. Besides, can anyone imagine how stagnant life would be if everyone had already accomplished all their goals? All to reach the same tireless end of the cycle asking - what now? If we were all exactly where we wanted to be - no taller mountain to climb, where would we have left to go? How many times do we learn something, go somewhere or meet someone and think to ourselves - how on earth did I go my whole life without this?? And if we’re lucky enough we get to feel that heart-exploding awe again and again and again. We get to feel the frustrations of words that didn't come out right and the connection that comes from vulnerability, apologies, shared burdens. To still be in pursuit of something greater, to accept when you are less experienced humbly and be open is like running a marathon without worrying about who's faster stronger, or how many kilometres are left. It’s okay to feel like one has only made a small dent in their goals, there is space and time to meet our highest potentials. Think of how you would treat someone younger, more naive in your situation. Be that person to yourself until you can become that inspiring figure for someone else. Here’s to everything in life that is unfinished, because we are lucky enough to continue our discovery, even with all the awkward stumbling along the way.
